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Affirmative Consent (or, OMG sex contracts!)

California is about to pass a bill that would set an affirmative consent standard for college campuses.  And reaction has been…strong.  Promoting consent always leads to the “Oh noooooooo!  What’s this world coming to!?!?!?!  Are we going to have to sign sex contracts now!?!?!” response.  You know, the kind of reactions rapists have to the…

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On Leaving Social Media (for now)

I just announced my decision to leave personal social media – delete the apps and walk away – to the shock of many (I dare say, all).  Like most, Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook have become integral components of my daily life.  I enjoy posting, sharing, and connecting.  I plan to come back, but for now,…

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Connecting the Dots: Consent at The Gentle Barn

Last week, I finally got to visit The Gentle Barn, a sanctuary for 170 farm animals who have all been rescued from severe abuse. I’d wanted to go since I moved to Los Angeles – a quick 30-45 minute drive north to Santa Clarita, a very easy-to-access location that is a must-visit for both residents…

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Grieving for the death of dreams

We all have dreams. Some of us realize them, many of us don’t. And you know what? We who lose our dreams, we who never know the joy of achievement…we grieve. Over ten years ago, a clinical social worker told me I was grieving; grieving, she said, for the life I had hoped to live.…

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To dream, to grieve

Forgetting loved ones who have died is, in my experience, the most common fear of those left behind, unspoken, in times of whispers, tears, and vulnerability. I wonder, though, if I can help ease such fears and the pain that so easily comes with them – the dread, the paralysis. You see, I have dreams,…

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I’m back! A.K.A. Ashley Maier, MSW, MPA

After a long break, I’m pleased to be back as Ashley Maier, MSW, MPA. I took the break the finish my MPA capstone paper, a case study about women’s experiences working with men in the movement to end violence against women.  I’ll be sharing more about that paper in the future and over at PreventConnect …